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  • 24/11/2019 - Stephen Walker 0 Comments
    Learn to say 'NO'

    At times do you feel like you have taken on too many commitments and feel spread too thin?

    Have considered saying “No” at times like that, but find it hard to do?

     Let’s look at why it can be so hard to say no. Put another way, how do you say no and not feel bad about it?
    Saying “No” can trigger all sorts of worried thoughts in your brain, like:
    I’m missing out
    I’m being rude
    I'm letting them down
    I’m making them angry
    I’m not meeting my goals


    And on and on and on...
    Most of the time, none of those are true. One key to success in life and business is to be capable of choosing when to get involved and when to set boundaries.
    Examples of when it is OK to say "No":
    When you're stressed or overwhelmed
    When you're already doing too much
    When you're tired or sick
    When it's something you don't want to do
    When it takes away from your values and wishes
    When you deserve or need some time to yourself

    Here are some tips to help you when you are saying “No”:
    Tell the truth: Always find a way to be truthful; an honest and respectful answer to a request ultimately deepens the integrity of a relationship.

    Timing matters: No does not mean "No forever". Sometimes you just need time or circumstances to be right, so don’t feel that you are permanently shutting out a goal or a person if you say no at a given moment.

    Stay firm: People who are used to relying on you saying “Yes” will often try to persuade you. Don’t get drawn into elaborate discussion. Just repeat your no and have short phrases or a sentence ready that honestly explain your decision, for example: "I’m unavailable because my family needs me"; "I can't right now because I am swamped with other commitments"; “It is not the precise area where I choose to put my efforts right now”.

    Saying “No” does not mean you are selfish or lazy. It means you are setting boundaries, which is vital in our busy world. And strange as it may seem, this can be a help to other people as well, when they observe how you take care of your own needs.
    And by saying “No” you make space for more “Yes”—to the things you really want to say “Yes” to.
    Both “Yes” and “No” have magic within them, allowing us to fully respond to each situation in life. It is about being able to choose what we want.
    Ask yourself at each moment of decision, what do I really want and need? Then courageously state your ‘Yes” or “No” and watch the magic happen.


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  • 04/11/2019 - Stephen Walker 0 Comments
    Make Things Happen

    While you're on a path of change 
    ...Just remember to stay flexible!

    Breathe through the setbacks.
    Problem-solve the obstacles.
    Don't waste time complaining about distractions.
    Get centered!

    The building-blocks you need to build your masterpiece
    are all around you.


    Creating takes time, patience and TRUST! :)

    Harness your positive energy -
    Keep believing you are capable.
    (And hold others capable too!)

    I have no doubts...
    With all that is on your plate, you are doing a terrific job!

    Absolutely!


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  • 28/09/2019 - Stephen Walker 0 Comments
    Can you be positive all the time?

    For many years I thought I could
    be optimistic and enthusiastic at all times. Can you relate to that? Well,
    let me tell you something, that was exhausting.

    Finally I realized that
    was just humanly not possible!

    This unrealistic demand for
    unrelenting positivity is, I believe, one of the downfalls of the positive
    thinking movement. People think they should be "positive" all the
    time and they don’t like themselves or others when they are negative. This
    unrealistic demand on reality can create a lot of stress.

    As human beings we are here to live every spectrum
    of all emotions and experience our life through these different expressions. If
    we can master our self-knowledge and have the emotional wisdom to understand
    what each emotion shows us, we can neutralize ourselves and come back to our
    center / heart and be accepting of the given situation without any lopsided
    perception.

    When we can observe what is as it is,
    we can make a better decision from this neutrality. There are
    "negative" feelings in each of us, and they can be clues for what
    needs attentions; so-called negative responses only become limiting when we
    are stuck with them and do not use them as a guide for making a change in
    thoughts or a change in actions.

    If you find yourself happy and sad,
    up and down, optimistic and pessimistic be assured that–at least in that
    regard!–you are normal and healthy. Just don’t let those feelings consume you,
    taking you over. I do also want to acknowledge that at times we can find
    ourselves in a dark or anxious place, and simply not know how to handle it.
    This may take deeper work prolonged over a period of time, but I hope you will
    accept that even those difficult states of mind can be re-balanced and
    understood more fully so that they eventually add meaning to your life.

    Neutrality can happen in seeing the
    duality of any given emotion. In allowing that neutrality, you dissolve
    wishful-thinking or doom-and-gloom fantasies and claim your full power in
    reality, including your ability to choose. Acceptance and understanding
    this principle of polarities can free you; that is, all experiences come in
    pairs of opposites, and we can move encompass those polarities for greater
    freedom in our lives. As you embrace all that you are and all that is you, you
    center yourself and give yourself the freedom to choose.

    Not rejecting any
    part of you yet consciously choosing what you focus on, and choosing a
    direction for yourself, helps you to take steps and ultimately achieve what
    you want to create.


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