Your Core Values
It is said that each of us holds many values ...Some ... superficial, transitory, or fitting solely the moment in which we find ourselves. Others are more fixed and stay with us through our life, these are our core values so what are they.....
2) Your compass, seasons, relationships, and goals change but your core values remain, like a compass they always point you in the right direction
3) Your anchor, any storm can take you under, any current can take you places you don't want to go. You have an anchor that holds you when it gets nasty.
All of a sudden you realise the ladder you've been climbing is leaning against the wrong wall.
Throw yourself into your tasks so that everyone will see your progress
The average person in any line of work could double their productive capacity if they began right now to practice all the things they know they should do, and stopped practicing all the things they know they shouldn't do. Now success doesn't come just by practice, you must practice right and do the right things.
There are four pillars of practice we should incorporate into our daily lives in order to succeed:
A man approached Socrates one day to share some gossip. The wise philosopher asked, First, are you certain it's true. Second, is it something good. Third, is it something useful.When the man said, 'Not really' Socrates replied, Well if it's not true, good or useful, why talk about it.
Gossip can feel like a form of initmacy, but it's actually a false bond motivated by the desire to diminish another person and make yourself look good.
Ask yourself these questions:
Are you telling someone who can do something about the problem by helping.
Are you talking to someone wise enough to help you process your feelings.
Is this news worth sharing.
Are you breaking the confidence rule.
Would you divulge your source so it can be checked.
And would you be comfortable if someone was saying things about you.
My mother use to say if you have nothing good to say dont say anything at all
The Main Question
JOHN GRIFFIN who controlled a railway drawbridge over the Mississippi River, took his young son to work with him one day. After putting the massive drawbridge up, Griffin was eating lunch when suddenly he heard the whistle of the Memphis Express roaring towards the crossing. Leaping from the observation deck, he ran to throw the control switch. Glancing down, his heart stopped! His son had fallen into the gears, trapping his leg in the cogs. Desperately he tried to devise a rescue plan, but there was no time.
His son was down there - but there were four hundred passengers on the train!
Griffin knew what he had to do. Burying his face in his arm, he pushed the master switch just in time to lower the bridge into place as the train thundered across. Then raising his head he looked into the passing windows with tearfilled eyes. There were businessmen casually reading the newspaper, ladies sipping coffee, and children eating ice cream. Nobody even looked at the control house or glanced down at the great grearbox. In agony Griffin cried out 'I sacrificed my son for you people, Don't you care? But as the train rushed by, nobody heard the anguished father's words.
The main question is what would you have done?
ALL YOU NEED TO SAY IS SIMPLY 'YES OR NO'
When does a good thing become too much?. Can I help you, without hurting me?. Can we share our lives, without me giving up mine?, When do you truly need my help?
When do I need to let go and let you handle it? Finding the balance between enough and too much in relationships is a constant challenge and isn't easy. Especially when your role tends to be 'all things, at all times, to all people' and theirs is, I'm helpless, you owe me, take care of me: when you have no 'no' and they have no 'tes'. Needing to be needed by needy people who always want someone to take care of them puts the needy person in the driver's seat- and puts you over the edge. They are never happy, whatever you do. So you do more to make them feel happier and yourself feel less guility, and you end up in a double bind. They resent you for not giving enough and you resent them for not appreciating what you give. Yet neither of you knows how to break they cycle. So the relationship becomes what counsellors call a 'more of the same' tangle where both parties resent and devalue the other, feeling stuck in a life dominating trap you both fear to jettison. Marriages, familes, friendships, workplaces and social groups get trapped in this 'victim-rescurer' pattern where needy people and fixers become trapped in a mutual dance they both 'love to hate' but won't stop doing!
If so you're moving towards a healthier, less toxic relationship.
LOOK AFTER YOUR HEART
Our hearts can be very fragile. They can be torn apart in a moment, catching us off guard and creating sudden turmoil in our lives. Healing the heart isn’t easy, and it takes time, but with the right mindset and people, they heal. You must have faith.
Sometimes when you feel your heart is broken, it entirely distracts you from all the other aspects in your life. It’s hard to focus and get back on track until you allow yourself time to process and work through the pain.
It can be hard to cope with loss, grief, disappointments in life but it’s what makes you strong and resilient and empathetic. It makes you real and alive.
“The word 'happy' would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness” Carl Jung
Allow yourself to be sad and recognize that emotion, for you have every right to feel it deeply. But then remind yourself of all the beautiful joys in life and how blessed you are by family and friends and nature and pick yourself back up.
No one likes to have a bad day, and even though they are inevitable, decide to populate your life with as many grand days as possible because your days are not infinite.