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  • 21/03/2021 - Stephen Walker 0 Comments
    A YEAR IN LOCKDOWN

    A year of lock down, zoom fatigue, uncertainty may have left you feeling
    unmotivated, or just plain tired. You may find yourself a little in a slump at
    this time, or anxious without necessarily knowing why. At least I was feeling
    some of all of that, and wanted to share with you the practices I am doing to
    shift myself. I am happy to say it is working.

    Here’s the deal. There are somethings that you can
    do right now that are completely within your control to get
    you back on track and feel energized.

    I am enjoying the approach of spring time, as it reminds me of
    blossoming and new growth energies emerging. But how can we create that
    vibrancy and resilience independent of the weather and time of year?

    Creating the physical, mental and emotional energy to feel vibrant and
    resilient is there for you at all times to tap into. Here are some suggestions:

    Find movement that moves you

    I don’t know about you but I found myself moving less during this
    pandemic as I was sitting on too many Zoom meetings. Finally, I decided to make
    it a priority to move around, couch to 5k as well as kayaking when the weather
    is good and when local lockdown rules apply. It has made a big difference.

    Why? When you move, it changes your biochemistry, which changes how you
    feel, how you focus, and how motivated you are. This isn’t “woo-woo” nonsense.
    This is science. Creativity, passion, and clarity arise from your whole brain
    and body, not from just your mind. As you move you release the tension and
    start the flow of energy in your brain / body.

    Cleanse / Detox

    Cleanse / detox applies to your body, your environment and your
    emotions.

    Body: Observe your diet. Claim your health by eating natural foods and
    breaking free of the grip of processed foods. Make sure you are balancing your
    protein, vegetables and fat. You may consider to do a detox to reset your body.
    And make sure you are hydrating.

    Environment: Clear your space, clear your mind. If your home and workplace is
    cluttered there is a good chance that your head is too. Start with one drawer,
    one room, one shelf… at a time. Inch by inch it is a cinch.

    Emotions: Choose to bring joy and gratitude to everyday life, and share those
    feelings. Positive emotions shared with others help us feel more energized,
    make better decisions, and be more effective. Creating positive experiences
    helps weaken the grip of negative thoughts and feelings.

    Take time to connect to yourself and observe your thoughts and
    find ways to accept whatever you find, as well as sharing (even by phone
    or email, if necessary) with others.

    Recharge your “battery” throughout the day

    Stress is the ultimate enemy of good energy and well-being. Throughout
    the day take pauses to scan your battery and recharge.


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  • 01/01/2021 - Stephen Walker 0 Comments
    What A Year

    Charles Dickens prophetically summed this year up: “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of light, it was the season of darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair.”

    It has been a year of contradictions. Some of us faced greater challenges than others, some of us prospered. 2020 made it clear to me that we need to step up to create a world that works for all of us.

    Closing the gap between where you are and where you want to be requires navigation. You already know that if you keep doing the same things each year, you may not see any change. So, you can benefit by setting up new priorities for yourself and making some adjustments.

    I invite you to take time to pause and reflect by asking yourself some questions and actually write down your responses to the questions below.

    For the past year:

    What were my top five achievements?
    What were my top five challenges?
    What relationships did I develop?
    How did I make a difference?
    What am I grateful for?
    What did I learn about myself?

    For the coming year:

    What are my top five goals?
    What challenges do I anticipate?
    What relationships would I like to strengthen?
    What would I like to create in the world?
    Where do I want to grow or learn about myself?


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  • 27/10/2020 - Stephen Walker 0 Comments
    Great News

    With life in the UK slowly getting back to normal, the results of the prestigious 2020 Southern Enterprise Awards proudly hosted by SME News!
    We are delighted to announce great news! Blue Water Coaching has been awarded;
    Best Stress Management Consultant 2020


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  • 18/10/2020 - Stephen Walker 0 Comments
    Facing anxiety

    If you’re facing anxiety or overwhelm, you’ve probably got one thing on your mind — how to make it go away. But what if this challenging emotion was actually trying to help?

    Over the years I have realized that leaning into any kind of emotion and being curious allows me to understand myself better and therefore help myself more.

    Leaning in can be difficult if this emotion is perceived as uncomfortable and negative. At times even positive emotions can be uncomfortable. Anything that is felt very strongly and has not been integrated into your character, can make you feel at risk of de-stabilization. However, when you engage with it wisely, it helps you to focus, plan, and take action in a better way.
    Emotions are at the center of everything you are: every relationship, every dream, every failure, every triumph, every act of violence, and every act of love. Your emotions are not just random sensations or meaningless moods — your emotions are vital to understand yourself and the world around you.
    Most of us have been taught to feel ashamed about or afraid of our anxiety and overwhelm, or to treat it as a sign of weakness or trouble.
    Today I invite you to befriend those emotions and use the information and energy they provide for your well-being and success.
    Pause and ask yourself:
    Is there anything I can do to change the situation?
    What is great and meaningful about this problem?
    How is this situation or person benefiting me?
    What am I willing to do to make things the way I want them to be?
    As you ask these questions, your mind will start focusing on solutions as well as feeling less like a victim. Along with that, you will start feeling less stressed, more empowered and ready to take action or actions that will move you forward


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  • 29/09/2020 - Stephen Walker 0 Comments
    My secret Place

    My secret place TENBY
    I am grateful to the welsh countryside and beaches as this has become my sacred place where I enjoy deeply connecting to myself. The beauty of nature has a profound effect upon me; it becomes the gateway from the outer world to the inner.
    No big orange cones are blocking my way! Reentry is here. Maybe normalcy is returning. A few weeks ago, this site was blocked off, inaccessible.
    The sun shine and sounds of the sea welcomes me. I wonder if they are calling others or keeping them away. I have the same feelings with this reopening of society. Part of me is wanting it, and part of me, is not so comfortable.
    I hear the birds calling me back to the moment as I smell the deliciousness of earth and drink in the views. The familiarity of the sounds, sights, and smells makes me feel safe again, as if normalcy has returned.
    This world is quite astonishing, when you step into this moment, out of the thoughts that chase you away. When you open your heart and your mind without a haze of your fears, amazement comes!
    When I am most awake, most present in the moment, every sense of nature converges into a single energetic joy. It is as if there is a feeling passing between each living thing, a bond that is tangible and blended, a melody beyond the range of ears but available for the heart.
    As each blade of grass moves in the wind, a part of me does also. It is the togetherness of what appears to be separate; interconnectedness is the real nature of our universe.
    I want to know more. I want to know more about me, I want to know more about you, I want to know more about life....
    I must reenter along with the rest of society! This will require some courage and vulnerability. In the living, I will learn. I will allow the unfolding without attachment to any outcome.
    And you?


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  • 08/08/2020 - Stephen Walker 0 Comments
    Step out of the darkness

    If you’re facing anxiety or overwhelm, you’ve probably got one thing on your mind — how to make it go away.


    But what if this challenging emotion was actually trying to help?


    Over the years I have realized that leaning into any kind of emotion and being curious allows me to understand myself better and therefore help myself more.


    Leaning in can be difficult if this emotion is perceived as uncomfortable and negative.

    At times even positive emotions can be uncomfortable.

    Anything that is felt very strongly and has not been integrated into your character, can make you feel at risk of de-stabilization.

    However, when you engage with it wisely, it helps you to focus, plan, and take action in a better way.


    Emotions are at the center of everything you are: every relationship, every dream, every failure, every triumph, every act of violence, and every act of love.

    Your emotions are not just random sensations or meaningless moods — your emotions are vital to understand yourself and the world around you.
    Most of us have been taught to feel ashamed about or afraid of our anxiety and overwhelm, or to treat it as a sign of weakness or trouble.


    Today I invite you to befriend those emotions and use the information and energy they provide for your well-being and success.
    Pause and ask yourself:
    Is there anything I can do to change the situation?
    What is great and meaningful about this problem?
    How is this situation or person benefiting me?
    What am I willing to do to make things the way I want them to be?


    As you ask these questions, your mind will start focusing on solutions as well as feeling less like a victim. Along with that, you will start feeling less stressed, more empowered and ready to take action or actions that will move you forward.


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  • 08/03/2020 - Stephen Walker 0 Comments
    In stormy times

    In stormy times we all want to know our true power so that we can make clear decisions, and heal our wounds.

    The first step in tending our wounds is to find a safe container.

    Our safe containers vary from person to person and situation to situation, and can include, for example, meditating, journaling, being in nature, or sharing with a safe person, or a combination of these.
    Once we find our safe container, we can start to process and move forward.
    For me, being still in nature connects me to my own natural wisdom.
    What is your safe container?

    Reflect, and visit there periodically, so that you can be there for yourself when you really need it.


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  • 02/01/2020 - Stephen Walker 0 Comments
    Setting Goals

    Have you started to dream about possibilities for 2020?

    Do you set goals for yourself?

    What would you really love to see happen in your business and your personal life?

    Goals are like a magnet—they pull. And the stronger they are, the more purposeful they are, the more unique they are, the stronger they pull.
    One of the amazing things we have been given as humans is the unquenchable desire to have a better life, and the ability to establish and set goals to live out those dreams.
    Dreams with meaningful goals pull you through all kinds of down days and stormy seasons.
    If you have not already done so, can I invite you to take some time today to reflect, to listen to your heart, and to see what dreams live within you?
    And one more thing -- psychology professor Dr. Gail Matthews, at the Dominican University in California, led a study on goal-setting with nearly 270 participants. The results? You are 42 percent more likely to achieve your goals if you write them down.
    Writing your goals down not only forces you to get clear on what, exactly, it is that you want to accomplish, but doing so plays a part in motivating you to complete the tasks necessary for your success. The process of putting your goals on paper will force you to strategize, to ask questions about your current progress, and to brainstorm your plan of attack.


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  • 24/11/2019 - Stephen Walker 0 Comments
    Learn to say 'NO'

    At times do you feel like you have taken on too many commitments and feel spread too thin?

    Have considered saying “No” at times like that, but find it hard to do?

     Let’s look at why it can be so hard to say no. Put another way, how do you say no and not feel bad about it?
    Saying “No” can trigger all sorts of worried thoughts in your brain, like:
    I’m missing out
    I’m being rude
    I'm letting them down
    I’m making them angry
    I’m not meeting my goals


    And on and on and on...
    Most of the time, none of those are true. One key to success in life and business is to be capable of choosing when to get involved and when to set boundaries.
    Examples of when it is OK to say "No":
    When you're stressed or overwhelmed
    When you're already doing too much
    When you're tired or sick
    When it's something you don't want to do
    When it takes away from your values and wishes
    When you deserve or need some time to yourself

    Here are some tips to help you when you are saying “No”:
    Tell the truth: Always find a way to be truthful; an honest and respectful answer to a request ultimately deepens the integrity of a relationship.

    Timing matters: No does not mean "No forever". Sometimes you just need time or circumstances to be right, so don’t feel that you are permanently shutting out a goal or a person if you say no at a given moment.

    Stay firm: People who are used to relying on you saying “Yes” will often try to persuade you. Don’t get drawn into elaborate discussion. Just repeat your no and have short phrases or a sentence ready that honestly explain your decision, for example: "I’m unavailable because my family needs me"; "I can't right now because I am swamped with other commitments"; “It is not the precise area where I choose to put my efforts right now”.

    Saying “No” does not mean you are selfish or lazy. It means you are setting boundaries, which is vital in our busy world. And strange as it may seem, this can be a help to other people as well, when they observe how you take care of your own needs.
    And by saying “No” you make space for more “Yes”—to the things you really want to say “Yes” to.
    Both “Yes” and “No” have magic within them, allowing us to fully respond to each situation in life. It is about being able to choose what we want.
    Ask yourself at each moment of decision, what do I really want and need? Then courageously state your ‘Yes” or “No” and watch the magic happen.


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  • 04/11/2019 - Stephen Walker 0 Comments
    Make Things Happen

    While you're on a path of change 
    ...Just remember to stay flexible!

    Breathe through the setbacks.
    Problem-solve the obstacles.
    Don't waste time complaining about distractions.
    Get centered!

    The building-blocks you need to build your masterpiece
    are all around you.


    Creating takes time, patience and TRUST! :)

    Harness your positive energy -
    Keep believing you are capable.
    (And hold others capable too!)

    I have no doubts...
    With all that is on your plate, you are doing a terrific job!

    Absolutely!


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  • 28/09/2019 - Stephen Walker 0 Comments
    Can you be positive all the time?

    For many years I thought I could
    be optimistic and enthusiastic at all times. Can you relate to that? Well,
    let me tell you something, that was exhausting.

    Finally I realized that
    was just humanly not possible!

    This unrealistic demand for
    unrelenting positivity is, I believe, one of the downfalls of the positive
    thinking movement. People think they should be "positive" all the
    time and they don’t like themselves or others when they are negative. This
    unrealistic demand on reality can create a lot of stress.

    As human beings we are here to live every spectrum
    of all emotions and experience our life through these different expressions. If
    we can master our self-knowledge and have the emotional wisdom to understand
    what each emotion shows us, we can neutralize ourselves and come back to our
    center / heart and be accepting of the given situation without any lopsided
    perception.

    When we can observe what is as it is,
    we can make a better decision from this neutrality. There are
    "negative" feelings in each of us, and they can be clues for what
    needs attentions; so-called negative responses only become limiting when we
    are stuck with them and do not use them as a guide for making a change in
    thoughts or a change in actions.

    If you find yourself happy and sad,
    up and down, optimistic and pessimistic be assured that–at least in that
    regard!–you are normal and healthy. Just don’t let those feelings consume you,
    taking you over. I do also want to acknowledge that at times we can find
    ourselves in a dark or anxious place, and simply not know how to handle it.
    This may take deeper work prolonged over a period of time, but I hope you will
    accept that even those difficult states of mind can be re-balanced and
    understood more fully so that they eventually add meaning to your life.

    Neutrality can happen in seeing the
    duality of any given emotion. In allowing that neutrality, you dissolve
    wishful-thinking or doom-and-gloom fantasies and claim your full power in
    reality, including your ability to choose. Acceptance and understanding
    this principle of polarities can free you; that is, all experiences come in
    pairs of opposites, and we can move encompass those polarities for greater
    freedom in our lives. As you embrace all that you are and all that is you, you
    center yourself and give yourself the freedom to choose.

    Not rejecting any
    part of you yet consciously choosing what you focus on, and choosing a
    direction for yourself, helps you to take steps and ultimately achieve what
    you want to create.


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